64: Finding Hope in Failure {Day 30 of 30 Days of Dangerous Hope}

64: Finding Hope in Failure

How do you typically handle it when you fail to meet your goal? I want to share with you how to find some hope in your failures. In true Mandy-fashion, I’m going to use my own recent failure as an example. Grab your coffee and listen in as I share a heartfelt message about finding hope in failure.



This episode is the final day of the 30 Days of Dangerous Hope Campaign. Read all 30 days here.

Be willing to face your failures. You just might find that the let downs and disappointments from them are less than the growth!

~Mandy B. Anderson

Finding Hope in Failure Coaching Exercise:

Finding hope in your failure requires you to journal it out. Let’s do it together! Take out a pen and paper and draw a vertical line down the center of the page. At the top of the page, write down a recent goal that you failed to meet. Write a column on the left hand side of the vertical line titled “Let downs of this experience.” On the right hand side write a column titled “What I learned or new experiences I am proud of.” Then, set a timer for 5-10 minutes and jot down everything you can think of on both sides!

We have to be willing to look at our failures. It’s only when we do, that we can grow in wisdom, strength, and skill.

~Mandy B. Anderson

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Day 29 – Becoming A Dangerous Hope Agent

Day 29 – Becoming A Dangerous Hope Agent

Sometimes the worst thing that happens to us becomes the very thing we needed to find meaning and purpose. However, we don’t think about that when we take the leap of faith into the unknown adventure of dangerous hope. We simply take a deep breath and jump. The truth is that becoming an agent of dangerous hope requires a clear sense of self-awareness and a plan.

I’ll be diving into this deeply in my book. But for today, here’s a quick guide on how to become an agent of dangerous hope so you can consistently turn your disappointments into something meaningful.

Step 1: Be your own biggest cheerleader of dangerous hope.

The voice you listen to the most is your own. Which means you’ve got to become your own biggest cheerleader! Encourage yourself as you take action. Remember: dangerous hope is hope that takes action! It’s dangerous because bad news doesn’t stop it, setbacks don’t derail it, and not even death can snuff it out because it lives on in the lives of those it touches.

If you’ve already sparked dangerous hope, keep taking action and encourage yourself every step of the way!

Step 2: Confront your wishful thinking and unrealistic expectations.

This is where avoidance creeps in. Don’t let it! People want to ignore this part because it is uncomfortable. Remember: false hope is hope that wishes and doesn’t prepare for any setbacks. Now you know better.

So as you are hoping and taking action, prepare for the let downs and set backs! They will come from time to time. You can’t skip them so you might as well confront them and have a plan of attack in place to problem solve through them.

Step 3: Lean into the disappointments and admit them, then get back up again and keep going.

Admitting your disappointments isn’t a negative thing. It’s the only way to grow stronger through them! Remember: hope deferred is where many people get stuck and depressed because they keep stewing on the hurt. Lean into your disappointments, process them, and then get back up again.

Your disappointments aren’t the enemy. They are the mirror. They show you what you are passionate about. Don’t wallow in them. Rise up because of them! They show you where you can grow.

Never stop hoping, my friend. Make the choice to step into the identity of an agent of dangerous hope. When it seems all Hope is lost, let yourself cry about it, get some sleep, and dare to get up again the next morning and hope another day.

Much love,
~Mandy

Day 28: Doris Tulcin, Cystic Fibrosis, and Me

Day 28: Doris Tulcin - Dangerous Hope Agent

The year was 1955. Doris Tulcin was the mother of a two-year-old daughter named Annie. Annie had Cystic Fibrosis and was given one year to live.

Determined to save the life of her child, Doris did what moms do. She partnered with 3 other CF Moms to find a solution. Together, they formed a support group and called it the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.

Now, they didn’t have the answers to their children’s health problems. But what they did have was a DANGEROUS HOPE that they could make a difference in a big way.

Here’s what happened over the next 65 years…

  • 1961 – developed care centers focused on the disease
  • 1982 – gathered top-notch scientists to establish a research development program to improve their understanding of CF which eventually led to the discovery of the CF gene (1989).
  • In the 1990’s research allowed them to develop new medications that extended their quality and length of life.
  • 2012 – developed the first drug to treat the underlying cause of CF. (Up to 60% of the CF population were helped from these drugs)
  • October 2019 – Trikafta was introduced into the world. It is a game changer in the CF community – with the ability of helping up to 90% of the CF population.

People are going OFF of lung transplant lists because of this medication. All because of a Dangerous Hope that Doris and a handful of people stayed committed to for over six decades!

Doris Tulcin’s Dangerous Hope affected the CF Community around the globe.

Decades later, her Dangerous Hope impacted my life. I’ve made big mistakes in my life; yet, because of the medical advancements in the Cystic Fibrosis Community, I’ve been given a second chance at a healthy life. I use my voice and my story to speak up about what I experienced, and how important it is to stay on medication for this disease. I’ve chosen to make it matter.

That is the strength of Dangerous Hope! It is the only thing stronger than fear!

Getting really good about going through the Hope Cycle and still keeping Dangerous Hope burning bright is important.

Don’t think for a moment that Doris’s story was without challenges or heartbreak. While I’ve never met her, it’s not hard to consider that she went through the Cycle of Hope many times over the last 65 years. Think about it…

Maybe she entertained false hope by wishing CF would just go away or that there would be a cure developed quickly.

She most likely felt the fear and frustration of hope deferred when kids were dying, and the research team hadn’t even been developed yet.

She probably had moments where she worked through the cycle of hope again and again; because she’s human.

But at the end of the day she turned her sorrows into a dangerous hope of action that impacted the entire world. She kept fanning the flame of Dangerous Hope again and again.

And Annie? Well, Annie celebrated her 67th birthday this year. That is the power of Dangerous Hope.

The message of Dangerous Hope needs to reach the masses.

People need to hear stories like Doris’s. They need to hear my story of rising up from the ashes of my circumstances. We all need to be reminded of stories like these, or like Zach Sobiech, or my friend, Kim Nagle. People need these stories because hope can be fickle until you learn how to keep it growing.

I’m in the last twenty-four hours of my Dangerous Hope Book pre-order campaign. It’s been a wild ride, and honestly, it’s just beginning. Tomorrow I’ll share some points on how you can become a Dangerous Hope Agent in your own corner of the world. Until then, Visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope to pre-order your copies of my book today. When you pre-order 5 or more copies, you’ll get access to the Build Hope Library – an online training area with videos and downloads that you can start implementing this week!

Thank you so much for your support…I can’t wait to get it into your hands!

Much love,

~Mandy

Day 27: Heroes of Hope

Day 27: Heroes of Hope

Who are the heroes of hope that inspire you? I like to call the heroes of hope “Dangerous Hope Agents.” They are advocates of hope that stay committed to their mission no matter how many times they get knocked down. No matter who is for them or against them.

Zach Sobiech – A Young Dangerous Hope Agent.

One of the stories that has really impacted me over the last several years is that of a young man named Zachary Sobiech. I read his story in 2014 and sobbed.

Zach inspired millions of people with his song, Clouds. The song was written in 2012, while Zach was battling a rare form of cancer called osteosarcoma. Zach died in 2013. He was only 18 years old.

Zach didn’t get to fully experience what he hoped for. He didn’t get to hear raving fans at his concerts or have a long career as a songwriter. Oh, he tasted small glimpses of it during his life on earth. However, the full extent of his hope caught fire after his death. His mom wrote a book about his life, and years later that book would become the basis of a full length movie, aptly titled, “Clouds.”

“I want to be remembered as the kid who went down fighting and didn’t really lose.”

ZACH SOBIECH

Zach recognized the hope that was possible, even in his death. He started the Zachary Sobiech Osteosarcoma Fund to help raise money to find a cure for this rare form of cancer. He passed the torch of Dangerous Hope in a way that inspired others and made an impact in a positive way. Learn more about his legacy here.

Jesus Christ – The OG Dangerous Hope Agent.

I was driving to work the other day and was instantly overwhelmed by the realization that the OG of Dangerous Hope is Jesus Christ. Whether we share the same faith or not, we can all agree that the dangerous hope he sparked has lasted for thousands of years past his death.

When you grow up in church hearing about Jesus’ life, you can grow numb to the power and even the hope of him. It becomes a story that you know by rote, but not by heart.

Jesus Christ sparked such a dangerous hope of eternal life beyond earth that he not only died for it, he inspired others to take up their cross and follow in his footsteps. Whether you believe the Gospel or not, there’s no bigger Dangerous Hope Agent than that!

I think the most interesting thing about the heroes of hope is this: many of them died before they actually fulfilled the mission they were hoping to achieve.

That thought humbles me. It grounds my focus and begs me to answer the question: will I stay committed to what I hope for, even in the face of death? That’s a question worth asking yourself. It’s a thought to chew on and dive deep into. And it’s the question I want to leave you with today. Lean into it and let it challenge you to step into your own journey of being a hero of hope. A Dangerous Hope Agent.

Much love,

~Mandy

P.S. You’ve only got two days left to pre-order my new book, Dangerous Hope, and get in on all of the one-time-offer bonuses. Visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope to pre-order 1, 2, 5, or 15+ copies today! Thank you so much for your support…I can’t wait to get it into your hands!

Day 26 – Disrupting the Setbacks to Find Hope Again

Day 26 - Find Hope Again

How do you find hope again? You choose to disrupt the setbacks when they happen. One of the definitions of the word disrupt is to, “radically change an industry, etc.” Radically changing your setbacks requires you to gain perspective so you can use the setbacks to find hope again.

This will require you to take out a pen and paper and ask yourself some key questions to help you gain that perspective.

Here’s a short question guide to get you started…

  • What setback happened?
  • Why did you lose hope from it?
  • How would you describe your disappointment right now?
  • What emotions are you feeling because of this?
  • How can you find a new purpose within this setback, even if you might still be sad or disappointed?
  • What might be possible now that wouldn’t be had things originally gone as you had hoped?
  • What actions will you take to move forward?

Finding your hope again doesn’t have to be long or drawn out. Use this question guide whenever a setback happens. It will help you process your let downs so you can ignite dangerous hope again and again.

Much love,

~Mandy

P.S. You’ve only got a few days left to pre-order my new book, Dangerous Hope, and get in on all of the one-time-offer bonuses. Visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope to pre-order 1, 2, 5, or 15+ copies today! Thank you so much for your support…I can’t wait to get it into your hands!