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It Takes Courage to be Real

I’ll never forget the day I sat in the hairstylist’s chair and watched her transform me into the most authentic version of myself I had ever experienced…

The purple wand slid through each strand of hair as the stylist combed it into my dark brown bangs. At the tender age of seven, my little heart was bursting with excitement over the fact that Mom said it was okay to get this vibrant streak of color put in my hair. It was only temporary, of course. Within a few days it would wash right out. Still, my heart was filled with pride, and I felt so authentically me in that moment. Purple hair and all.

Several years later I watched in admiration as an older friend in youth group daringly colored her own hair into a vibrant shade of maroon. She was so brave! The color represented her spunky personality so well. Part of me wished that I could find the courage to do that. Imagine – me – with maroon hair! I had long forgotten about the days of purple bangs from my childhood.

Somewhere along the way, I buried that part of me.

Maybe it was the fact that we had moved a few times, and I was now known as “the new girl.” Or maybe the labels that were placed on kids who were brave enough to express themselves rang so loudly in my head that I dared not put myself in a position of having those labels attached to me, too. Whatever it was, a part of me was buried and as the years went on, the distance between my authentic self and the woman in the mirror became as far away as the sun is from the earth.

It’s funny how something as simple as the color of your hair can be an indicator of whether or not you are living authentically as the woman God made you to be. It takes courage to be real…and many times we hide from it because we feel like we won’t be wanted if people know the real us. We fear that our realness won’t be good enough. But what is “good enough” anyway? Who even determines that? Striving to be “good enough” was never part of God’s plan for us. Often when we live with the desire of meeting everyone else’s expectations of us, we miss the bigger purpose God has for us.

Maybe you can relate?

Maybe you feel God knocking on the doorway of your heart right now. The desire to step out in faith and answer Him is so strong, that you can’t ignore it any longer.

Dear friend, the moment I started climbing the foggy staircase of personal growth and walking by faith without seeing the next step was the moment my life began to change!

It started with a simple action – attend a conference that intrigued me. Then, while at the conference, I invested in the tools that would eventually equip me to grow into my authentic self. (I.E. books and coaching programs offered – and I actually used them too!) I started to journal more and listening to leadership podcasts. I began to open up my heart to long buried dreams again and pressed on, grasping the Message God had given me, and I decided to never look back.

Because that’s what overcomers do. When we recognize the path that leads to our calling, we reach out and grab it with everything we’ve got!

If you feel that desire growing in the depths of your heart, but you’re not sure where to start, then I want to invite you to join me and our community of Champions and Warriors for the next Beautiful Wholeness. Our own journey’s of finding our authentic selves is what inspired us to design this event uniquely for other women desiring the same thing. Women like YOU!

Who knows, you might just find yourself completely and totally inspired by the end of the day, like Karen was…

What an awesome day! My fire has been lit!!! ~Karen, 2016 BW attendee

It takes courage to be real…I can’t wait to spend the day with you and help you find it!

Much love,


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