64: Finding Hope in Failure {Day 30 of 30 Days of Dangerous Hope}

64: Finding Hope in Failure

How do you typically handle it when you fail to meet your goal? I want to share with you how to find some hope in your failures. In true Mandy-fashion, I’m going to use my own recent failure as an example. Grab your coffee and listen in as I share a heartfelt message about finding hope in failure.



This episode is the final day of the 30 Days of Dangerous Hope Campaign. Read all 30 days here.

Be willing to face your failures. You just might find that the let downs and disappointments from them are less than the growth!

~Mandy B. Anderson

Finding Hope in Failure Coaching Exercise:

Finding hope in your failure requires you to journal it out. Let’s do it together! Take out a pen and paper and draw a vertical line down the center of the page. At the top of the page, write down a recent goal that you failed to meet. Write a column on the left hand side of the vertical line titled “Let downs of this experience.” On the right hand side write a column titled “What I learned or new experiences I am proud of.” Then, set a timer for 5-10 minutes and jot down everything you can think of on both sides!

We have to be willing to look at our failures. It’s only when we do, that we can grow in wisdom, strength, and skill.

~Mandy B. Anderson

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Day 5: Is Hope A Strategy?

Day 5: Is Hope A Strategy?

I’ve often heard it said that “hope is not a strategy.” Have you heard that, too? I’m willing to bet my Grande Starbucks Caramel Macchiato (with coconut milk, thank you) that you have. In fact, it’s so popular that if you Google it, you’ll find 1,010,000,000 results! If that’s not proof that people are really wrestling with hope, then I don’t know what is!

Is Hope A Strategy? My answer is…possibly. You see, IF hope is a strategy, it’s got some conditions to meet in order to be an effective strategy. Let’s dive in quick…

Is Hope A Strategy? Not if it’s False Hope.

Hope that waits and wishes is not a strategy. I call this False Hope. It’s the kind that tricks you into thinking it will all work out with the snap of a finger, wishing on a penny, or just simply speaking the right words and then waiting to see what will happen. False Hope is not a strategy. I’ve learned this the hard way, my friend, and I’ll be sharing more about it in my book.

Is Hope A Strategy? If it is Dangerous Hope, then yes.

Dangerous Hope is hope that takes action. It learns from mistakes, anticipates setbacks, and always takes action to keep moving in a direction toward what you hope for. Dangerous Hope as a strategy can be the difference between finding the solution that works or throwing your hands in the air and giving up.

I’ll dive into this concept more in my book, Dangerous Hope. For now, just be encouraged that hope can be a strategy when it is cultivated intentionally. If you want to know more about this, then I invite you to join my Dangerous Hope Crowdfunding Campaign to get this book in front of 27 publishers. I’ve got 25 more days to pre-sell 500 books and I’d be so honored to have your help! Visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope to learn more and get 1, 2, 5, 15, 25, 50, or even 100 books. The more books you pre-order, the better bonuses you get!

Talk to you soon. Until then, be healthy, stay creative, and have a dangerous hope.

Much love,

~Mandy

P.S. Click here to read more of the 30 Days of Dangerous Hope blog posts.

60: Hope Challenges Our Perspectives {Day 4 of 30 Days of Dangerous Hope}

day 4: Hope Challenges Our Perspectives

Today’s podcast episode is part of the 30 Days of Dangerous Hope Campaign. Grab your coffee and listen in as I share a heartfelt message about how Hope Challenges Our Perspectives.



By the time I was 26 years old,  I had consumed 250,00 pills. I had spent 14,235 hours doing breathing treatments. My medical bills added up to $663,000. Most of that was just for daily medications.

These numbers are quite conservative because most CF warriors could double or even quadruple some of those numbers for the same number of years. It would be easy to dwell on the problems, don’t you think? Come on, the medical bills alone would put some of us over the edge! But why do that? It would just be a waste of time and a waste of life really. What good is it going to do me, or anyone else, to spend time as the guest of honor at a pity party?

Hope challenges our perspectives.

In order to see the gift in these obstacles, a new perspective was needed. Just add a few new letters from the alphabet, and obstacles can become opportunities. Opportunities that made my entire situation seem more a blessing than a curse.

Here’s how I choose to look at those facts of my life:

–    250,000 pills = dedication and discipline to stay healthy and maintain life. This allowed me to make other healthy choices such as better nutrition, exercising, and getting enough rest.

–    14,235 hours doing treatments = personal reflection time. I learned how to spend time journaling and praying because I was forced to sit in one place for forty minutes at a time. This was also the beginning of learning to be more patient!

–    $663,000 in medical bills = helping pay someone else’s salary and giving them job security! Hey, maybe there were some kids that were able to eat because of me, right?

The simple decision to shift my perspective opened the door to learn the power of words. Out of the heart the mouth speaks. We find that in the Bible (Luke 6:45) and when you begin to pay attention to your own words and the words of others, it’s not hard to see the truth of that statement. It’s very possible to be a happy person and still speak words of death and focus on the wrong thing. That was me for the majority of my life.

Your words build up or tear down your hope.

Speaking words of life is something that should be taught in schools, churches, businesses…everywhere really. But it’s not. Growing up we often heard, and probably even proclaimed, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” Big time false! Words do hurt, and we completely miss the importance of our words on a daily basis.

Hearing a doctor tell your parents that your daughter (you) probably won’t live past ten years old hurts. Hearing and reading on the internet that people with the same disease that’s in your body will probably die before they turn thirty hurts. Those words not only hurt, but they set your brain and body up for a constant fight. Your desire to be healthy or have a healthy child always pales in comparison to words that statistics speak, unless you shift your focus.  Without that shift in perspective, a part of your hope dies, whether you realize it or not.

What are you focusing on?

In other words, what thoughts consume your mind, whether you want them to or not? Are you filled with thoughts of sickness, hopelessness, despair, or dead finances? Are you filled with thoughts of feeling run down or thoughts of giving up? Or, are you filled with thoughts of a long life? Are you filled with nagging thoughts that haunt you and bring anxiety or fear? Then your focus is on the wrong thing.  You’re speaking words of death—through the thoughts in your own mind—over yourself. It really is that simple.

Most of us have probably been surrounded at one time or another by people who speak negatively, gossip, and say conflicting words about us or over our lives constantly. If that’s you, this is going to be one of the most challenging areas to overcome. But, you can do it! I struggled with this very thing for years. In the midst of the pandemic of 2020, I discovered that I still find myself struggling with it. Words of worry and doubt were spoken over my life often, many times from my very own mouth. Words of worry are words of death.

I’ll say it again: Hope challenges our perspectives.

If the life you are living is not what you want—your health isn’t good enough, your finances aren’t getting better, your marriage sucks, you hate your job, oh, and your kids don’t listen—then you must begin to shift your perspective. Stop speaking things you don’t want! That will only bring you more of what you don’t want. Shift your perspective and start speaking words filled with dangerous hope!

I invite you to support the Dangerous Hope crowdfunding campaign.

Let’s co-create this book together! Let’s spread this message to as many people as possible!

Are you in? If so, I challenge you to not just get 1 or 2 books. Go BIG! Pre-order 5 or more books to get access to the Build Hope Library, Corporate Workplace Trainings, Free Coaching Sessions, and MORE! Visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope/ to learn more about the special bonuses I am giving away!

That’s the other thing! These bonuses are only good until November 11th, 2020!

Click here to pre-order your copy (or copies) now!

I’ll see you tomorrow with Day 5: Is Hope A Strategy?
Until then, be healthy, stay creative, and have a dangerous hope!
Much love,

~Mandy

Day 3: Hope Is Dangerous

Day 3: Hope is Dangerous

I’m a total nerd who loves books, coffee, and fandoms. One of my favorite quotes is from the movie, The Hunger Games, and it is said by the villain, President Snow. He says this, “Hope. It is the only thing stronger than fear. A little hope is effective, a lot of hope is dangerous.”

I hate to admit it, but the villain is right. Hope IS dangerous.  For two reasons:

1. Hoping for something you don’t get brings disappointment.

Nobody is immune to disappointments. The problem is that people get stuck focusing on the disappointments and don’t know how to get back up. I’m here to tell you that there’s danger in focusing on the wrong thing! Staying stuck in the disappointments will rob you of what could be. Train yourself to see past the disappointment, into the possibility.

2. Getting what you hoped for sparks change for generations to come.

The most dangerous thing of all to your current reality is getting what you hoped for! Why? It burns down any mediocrity and excuses, that’s why. It pushes you to rise up and reach your potential. And, it usually ends up helping other people in big ways.

The question is, which side of dangerous hope will you be on? The side that sparks change, or the side that fizzles?

My friend, don’t be the person that let’s your hope fizzle out. Be brave enough to wrestle with every side of hope – the let downs and the victories.

Guard your small flicker of hope with everything in you. Do not let anything snuff it out. One day, that little flame of hope, will catch fire in a meaningful way. That’s when you’ll see that your hope is dangerous in the best way possible.

I invite you to support the Dangerous Hope crowdfunding campaign.

I want to give you a Dangerous Hope that doesn’t fizzle out. Visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope/ to check out the special bonuses I am giving away with your pre-order.

These bonuses are only available for a limited time. The first 200 people to pre-order a copy get special bonuses like signed copies, access to a Build Hope Library, 1-to-1 coaching sessions, 3 hours of virtual workplace training, and MORE! 

Click here to pre-order your copy (or copies) now!

I’ll see you tomorrow with a special podcast episode for Day 4. Until then, be healthy, stay creative, and have a dangerous hope!

Much love,

~Mandy

Pre-order your copy now at www.DangerousHopeBook.com

Day 2: Building Blocks of Hope

Building Blocks of Hope

Some people look at the things they hope for and just…wait. They have this belief that just because they hope for it, it will happen.

I’m here to tell you that’s a lie from the pit of hell. Hope is not devoid of responsibility. In fact, the bigger the thing you are hoping for, the more responsibility you must be ready to take. Here’s what you need to know about the Building Blocks of a Dangerous Hope from the point of view of farming.

Building Block of Hope #1: Preparation

Every Farmer knows that you need to be prepared if you’re going to reap a harvest. You must have a plan of what crops you’re going to plant and where.

Hope is similar. You’ve got to be prepared to plant. You must also be prepared for setbacks. Hoping for something and thinking there will be nothing but smooth waters is foolish. There. Will. Be. Setbacks.

Always.

Be prepared for them. Anticipate them. Have a Plan A-Z on how you might dig out of them. Hope requires preparation!

Building Block of Hope #2: Mulch

Every Farmer knows that you must have good soil to plant on if you’re going to reap a harvest. And what does your soil need? Mulch. You need mulch!

What is mulch when it comes to hope?

Disappointments. Mistakes. These are the best kinds of mulch! Why? Because they are the organic matter of life. Disappointments push us to rise up or quit. Mistakes test our resilience and our ability to problem solve. The mulch of life shows us what we are made of.

Your journey of hope will require you to face the mulch of your life. If you don’t, what you plant won’t grow. Hope requires mulch!

Building Block of Hope #3: Commitment

Every Farmer knows that they have to be committed to doing the work in order to reap a harvest. They also know that some seasons they will reap a great harvest because of their commitment, and some seasons they won’t. Both are needed. Both have value.

Are you so committed to what you are hoping for that you’ll stand firm through the seasons where you lose? You must be! Hoping for something only when it’s going your way is not hope. That’s wishing. It’s just luck.

Hope requires commitment.

All three of these building blocks will help you activate a dangerous hope in your life!

I invite you to support the Dangerous Hope crowdfunding campaign.

Let’s co-create this book together! Let’s spread this message to as many people as possible!

Are you in? If so, visit https://publishizer.com/dangerous-hope/ to check out the special bonuses I am giving away!

That’s the other thing! These bonuses are limited. The first 200 people to pre-order a copy get special bonuses like signed copies, access to a Build Hope Library, 1-to-1 coaching sessions, 3 hours of virtual workplace training with Raychel and I, and MORE! 

Click here to pre-order your copy (or copies) now!

I’ll see you tomorrow with Day 3: Hope is Dangerous.
Until then, be healthy, stay creative, and have a dangerous hope!
Much love,

~Mandy